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Goals
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We are what we imagine ourselves to
be. Kurt Vonnegut, Jr.
A goal is the magic that
makes a dream come true. L. Walkup
Visualization must precede
actualization. Walkup |
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Dr._Phil_and_Goals( below). |
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Goals are S M A
R T
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Specifically set in writing( behavior/act/date)
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To
elevate them from a dream, hope or wish to a specific goal
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To think
through ideas more thoroughly, & see them more clearly
& specifically
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To
explore & discover a clearer view of our role, mission, goal,
aim...in life
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There is
permanence , non-changeability & seriousness in writing
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That
which gets written gets done. Include a
"done/deadline date."
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Remember
the journalist's questions
- Who
will be doing the behavior ?
- What
will be
behavior be?
- When
will it
happen?
- Where
will it
happen?
- How
often will
it happen?
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Me
Review notes
First thing in the morning
In my favorite chair
5 times a week |
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Measured
Measures
goals state what you want and when you want it
Note:
It is not enough to state, "I will be a good student."
Your progress & success cannot be measured with such a vague
goal.
A measurable goal is, "I will review my notes 5 X a week for 30
minutes."
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Goals
should be written in measurable units; that
which gets measured gets done.
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Continually
measure and chart your sub-goals; goal
achievement improves when
performance is monitored.
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Behaviors
that are rewarded or rewarding increase.
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A
Affirmative,
and attainable while anticipating setbacks
Focus on the
affirmative and attainable.
| Affirmative & Attainable Goals |
Poorly Written Goals |
| I'll be attentive, ask questions & take
notes. |
I won't daydream in class. |
I'll review for my math test for
one hour before going to sleep |
I won't watch TV before going to bed. |
| I will maintain a 3.5 average. |
I will not flunk out. |
| I will study 5 hours each
weekend. |
I won't goof off all weekend |
.Affirmation:
- Affirmation; a statement
that confirms the truth of something
- Imaging:
a corresponding mental image, picture, visualization or
vision
- Continually imagine
yourself achieving your goal, be it shooting a basket or
dazzling with an oral presentation, so that when it occurs it
reality, it will be easy and nothing new because you've
already "been there" so many times before.
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Realistic
Make
sure your goal is realistically attainable.
Is it realistic to lost 5 pounds a week?
If
your goals are realistic & you attain them, then you
will feel proud of yourself, having good self-esteem. This
fuels the momentum success breeds success.
If
your goals are unrealistic, they may be unachievable,
which leads to low self-esteem and a loss of momentum.
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Tied to the heart of your being in a personal way.
Goals
deepen in meaning as they become personal and meaningful to
you.
Only your hear of hearts knows what is appropriate for you
at this unique time in your life.
Make
sure your goal is balanced and worth pursuing, so that it
will infinitely enrich your life.
- Too easy – no satisfaction or pride (I'll pass
all courses)
- Too hard – frustrated & give
up (I'll get all As)
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Dr. Phil and
Goals.
Why do we need goals?
Because eventually the spur of the moment excitement will fade & the
emotion just won't carry us through any more. We need more
than emotion. We need goals.
Notice the overlap between SMART & Dr. Phil's 5 tips to lost
weight:
- Having a specific goal as opposed to saying, I want to lose
some weight.
- Getting a plan (diet and exercise)
- Identifying small, measurable steps - moving towards a
positive goal rather than just away from being fat
- Creating meaningful monitoring (Go public)
- Creating a healthy, realistic timeline
(Page 121 August 2005 Good Housekeeping, "Five Ways to Lost Big"
- Dr. Phil claims claims, "The first is to get over the idea
that emotion alone can get you through this. I don't care how
pumped up or psyched you are to start a new diet or a new
program, the emotion will fade." ("Dr. Phil's Fat Fighting
Secrets" Good Housekeeping, page 120 August 2005)
For Discussion
- Do you believe the initial emotion of a diet, New year's
resolution, academic resolution...will fade?
- If you agree, what should be done to offset or compensate
for this?
- Do you agree with Dr. Phil that "Food is a coping mechanism;
people are afraid of giving it up because then they'll feel
confused and lost" ("Dr. Phil's Fat Fighting Secrets" Good
Housekeeping, page 120 August 2005)
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1 Write
your goals
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To
elevate them from a dream, hope or wish to a specific goal
-
To think
through ideas more thoroughly, & see them more clearly
& specifically
-
To
explore & discover a clearer view of our role, mission, goal,
aim...in life
-
There is
permanence , non-changeability & seriousness in writing
-
That
which gets written gets done. Include a
"done/deadline date."
2.
Specific & Measurable (behavior/action/date)
- Who
will be doing the behavior
- What
will be
behavior be
- When
will it
happen
- Where
will it
happen
- How
often will
it happen
|
Me
Review notes
First thing in the morning
In my favorite chair
5 times a week |
Note:
It is not enough to state, "I will be a good student."
Your progress & success cannot be measured with such a vague
goal.
A measurable goal is, "I will review my notes 5 X a week for 30
minutes."
-
Goals
should be written in measurable units; that
which gets measured gets done.
-
Continually
measure and chart your sub-goals; goal
achievement improves when
performance is monitored.
-
Behaviors
that are rewarded or rewarding increase.
3. Affirmative
& Attainable
Focus on the
affirmative and attainable.
| Affirmative & Attainable Goals |
Poorly Written Goals |
| I'll be attentive, ask questions & take
notes. |
I won't daydream in class. |
I'll review for my math test for
one hour before going to sleep |
I won't watch TV before going to bed. |
| I will maintain a 3.5 average. |
I will not flunk out. |
| I will study 5 hours each
weekend. |
I won't goof off all weekend |
Tip: Find
the proper balance to make goals meaningful & worthwhile
- Too easy – no satisfaction or pride (I'll pass
all courses)
- Too hard – frustrated & give
up (I'll get all As)
4. Anticipate
obstacles & setbacks
- Treat
setbacks as temporary & opportunity to learn
- Avoid
specific situation that causes you to slip
- Prepare alternatives - if I
can't do it at 1PM, I will do it after supper & not go to bed
until it's completed. Be firm, flexible,
& optimistic when rescheduling
5.Support your goal with imaging and affirmations
- Imaging:
a mental image, picture, visualization or vision
- Affirmation; a statement
that confirms the truth of something
- Continually imagine
yourself achieving your goal, be it shooting a basket or
dazzling with an oral presentation, so that when it occurs it
reality, it will be easy and nothing new because you've
already "been there" so many times before.
Now your are ready to explore
your goals. Visit the journal
activities/chart.
Anticipate
obstacles & setbacks
- Treat
setbacks as temporary & opportunity to learn
- Avoid
specific situation that causes you to slip
- Prepare alternatives - if I
can't do it at 1PM, I will do it after supper & not go to bed
until it's completed. Be firm, flexible,
& optimistic when rescheduling
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