Lesson objective. Students should
- 1.__be familiar with opposing views
regarding post abortion trauma
- 2.__be able to list and explain some post-abortion trauma
symptoms
- 3.
be familiar with ways of overcoming post abortion trauma
syndrome
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1. Diversity
of Opinion:
There is a diversity of opinions and reactions after an abortion
has occurrence
- Some women have abortions and are pleased with their decisions.
They support and advocate for pro-choice groups.
- Some argue that having an unwanted child is more traumatic than
an abortion
- Other women who have had abortions because it seemed the best
solution at the time - are traumatized by the experience. What they
had thought would be a quick 10-minute procedure to alleviate a
problem was not the end of a problem, but the beginning of a
living nightmare from which one could not awaken..
Statistics Vary:
Barnard writes in "The Long-Term Psychological Effects of Abortion"
that at least 19 percent of post abortive women stuffer from
post-traumatic stress.
As
many as 91% of all abortions cause severe psychological
problems, both immediate and long-term, according to reports of
the Department of Education and the Alan Guttmacher Institute.
(from
91% Suffer from Post-abortion Trauma, Studies Show
© 1992 Diane S. Dew in
The Standard
The Healing Choice reports, "One would be hard pressed
to find a post -abortion woman who has not felt some degree of
guilt. It is normal.' (page 87).
2. Symptoms
- abortions: desire for repeat abortions
- aches: headaches, stomachaches
- addictive behaviors (overeating and anorexia, drinking, drugs,
workaholic, sex...)
- amnesia
- anger, rage, irritability
- anxiety and panic attacks
- avoidance of newspaper, magazine and television programs with
abortion-related stories
- bouts of crying
- children
- strong desire to be around children
- strong desire to avoid children
- desire to avoid baby showers
- conception -
- fear of being unable to conceive
- unexplained depression when conception occurs and after the delivery
- feat of being unable to carry baby to term because of weakened cervix
- depression - especially on celebratory days, such as mother's day,
father's day, child's anticipated birthday,
Halloween, Christmas, and of course, on the date of the abortion
- desire to become pregnant again -
- Nearly half of women get pregnant
within a year of their abortions. (Burke 72)
- Elliot Institute Survey: 29% of women attempted replacement
pregnancy
- difficulty with relationships
- diminished interest in activities which you to give one pleasure
- discomfort in response to some religious organizations
- drug and alcohol abuse
- eating disorders
- emotional numbness
- fear of spiritual retribution
- feelings of loss, loneliness, despair, isolation, abandonment
- flashbacks
- grief - grief triggered by items related to babies - showers,
diaper commercials, and the aborted fetus
- guilt
- hatred of husband and/or men
- heartache
- inability to deal
- inability to forgive oneself
- intense grief and sadness
- involvement in pro-life or pro-choice activities
- lowered self-esteem
- marriage problems
- men - an anger and resentment towards them -
- mood swings
- nightmares, sleep disturbance
- oversleeping
- rage
- repression - this is the blocking of a bad memory, like a car accident
- resistance to attending baby showers or visiting friends with babies
- self-destructive behaviors; self-punishment
- sexual symptoms
- sexual dysfunction
- sexual promiscuity
- sexual frigidity
- shame
- stress over sexual intimacy
- suicidal urges
- tension when asked, "Do you want children?" or "Do you have children?"
- withdrawal
- Avoiding uncomfortable relationships and pain - can be done
by silence, with alcohol or with drugs
- withdrawal from those involved in the abortion decision
- Wondering - always wondering how you would have enjoyed your
baby & what your baby would looks like, and be like
Sources: Healing Choice; Door to Hope; Dr. David
Reardon, Post Abortive Syndrome ; Forbidden Grief;
online book, Post Abortion Syndrome:
Abortionfacts.com;
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Additional
symptoms as described by various sources
The "Shadow Child" Symptom:
"In the aftermath of
abortion, some women find themselves living with regret as a
constant companion. These women may have identified at some
level with the aborted child and become preoccupied with it:
they live with a "shadow child." They wonder what it might have
looked like, especially when they see a boy or girl of the
approximate age theirs could have been" (from Living in the
shadow: in the aftermath of abortion, some women find themselves
living with regret as a constant companion. Sabine
Gordon. Vibrant Life, July-August 1989 v5 n5
p18(3)
There is "disenfranchised grief" experienced my women who have had
abortions. This grief is one where women "believe that they cannot
discuss the abortion or loss of their fetus with anyone because it needs
to be kept a deep dark secret. Also women may believe that they do not
have permission to grieve for the loss of their fetus with anyone and
therefore they experience deep sorrow. " (Butts
and Rich, Nursing Ethics, 2004, page 78)
Psychotic Breaks: Mark E. Chopko cites the
American Psychological Association in his article entitled, The
price of abortion sixteen years later:
"Cases have been reported of women's experiencing psychotic
breaks following abortion despite the absence of preexisting
psychological problems. In light of statistics showing
that suicide is the third leading cause of death among
adolescents, one needs to be alert to this risk ... Compared
with adults, adolescents appear to have somewhat more negative
responses on average following abortion.
(See Report of the Interdivisional Committee on Adolescent
Abortion, American Psychological Association, Adolescent
Abortion: Psychological and Legal Issues 84 [1986]
(From The price of abortion sixteen years later.
Mark E. Chopko National Forum, Fall 1989 v69 n4 p18(3)
)
Breast Cancer
Dr. Angela Lanfranchi reports, "breast cancer is the only major
cancer that has continued rising." She relates this to abortion:
"Thirty percent of my breast cancer patients who are in their thirties
do not have a family history of breast cancer, but have had an induced
abortion." Quoted from, "The Cost of Choice: Women
Evaluate the Impact of Abortion" edited by Erika Bachiochi, Encounter
Books, 2004 ISBN 15940305
Unworthiness & nightmares
"Millions of women have suffered over their decisions to have
abortions...Many women have believed that they were irretrievably
bad and unworthy of love from the wonderful men in their lives who
didn't know their dark secret. Some women have told me about their
nightmares and flashbacks, which are sometimes so severe that they find
it difficult to relax or get any pleasure out of life." Dr.
Laura C. Schlessinger, (forward to Forbidden Grief)
Understanding Anorexia
One anorexic, Lydia, describes anorexia as follows:
"The really said part is that anorexia made me feel better about
myself and very safe because without a period I couldn't get
pregnant." (Healing Choices, page 59)
Far-Reaching & Unspecified
"The effects of the abortion are much more far-reaching than the effects
of the rape in my life." —"Patricia Ryan" From Victims
and Victors
Speaking Out About Their Pregnancies, Abortions, and
Children
Resulting from Sexual Assault
edited by David C. Reardon, Julie Makimaa
and Amy Sobie
Reaction Formation
- This is a displacement of an emotion - for example, taking
out one's anger on a baby instead of a powerful boyfriend.
- Lorena Bobbit, severing her husband's penis near the
anniversary of her abortion
-
Susan Smith drowning her two children in a car in 1994
Personal Idiosyncrasies:
- One of my friends hates the sound of a vacuum since her abortion
as it reminds her of the suction machine used during her abortion.
She does not want wall to wall rugs in her home. Another
idiosyncrasy may be clothing - no longer wearing the item of
clothing worn at the abortion - yet other victims save
that item as one of the few souvenirs of their baby.
A Variety of Self-Destructive Suicidal Behaviors
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An online
book, Post
Abortion Syndrome speaks of Carol Carter's
suicide: "On April 20, 1996, Carol Carter finally succeeded
in taking her own life. It was on the anniversary of one of
her abortions. .."
"Methods used to commit suicide are extremely varied.
Some die of anorexia, others by overdoses of drugs, both
legal and illegal. One woman chose to drive directly into an
oncoming truck. Others have driven into light poles, bridge
abutments, drowned themselves, "
Post
Abortion Syndrome
Abortionfacts.com reports:
"The suicide rate after an abortion was three times the
general suicide rate" |
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| Personal Narratives Describing Grief
Four Narratives of symptoms taken from Forbidden
Grief::
- Eating Disorders
- "I am never hungry when I binge...I eat because I am full.
Full of anger, hurt, sadness, and loneliness. I throw up because
that is the way I empty myself of those feelings. " )(Sarah,
Forbidden Grief , Introduction XVII)
- Loneliness
- "My abortion didn't end my pain.... it began it,,,When I tried
to confide in friends about my anguish, they shook their heads with
disapproving looks. It made me feel so alone, so weird. Sometimes I
felt like I was going crazy" (page 31)
- Nightmares
- I would wake up because I heard a child crying, 'Mommy, mommy.'
I would sit up in bed and the voices would continue. I would cry for
hours" (127).
- Reminders/Triggers
- Whenever I was enjoying something...like a colorful sunset, or
the beauty of the ocean, I would see what I believe to be the face
of my aborted child...up in the clouds or in the waves of the ocean.
I would break down with grief and feel an incredible pain and sense
of loss. It became hard to enjoy anything" (126).
Two Narratives from
Post Abortion Syndrome :
- Robin's Story - difficulty parenting
"At one point in my life I was so determined that my
children would not turn out like me, that I was so strict on
them that they were not sure if mommy loved them, or hated
them. My daughters could not do anything well enough to suit
me, while my son could do no wrong. You see he was a
replacement baby. He came along after the abortion. I never
spanked him, never punished him, and as a result my
daughters thought that I loved him more than them. Not to
mention I was creating a little monster. That child was so
bad at one time that no one could stand to be around him.
I now know that no child
can be replaced. God made each child uniquely different from
any other. One day I will meet my twins face to face * -
what a day that will be."
- Leroy's Story Dreams
"For ten years my little boy came to me in my
dreams, so tiny that he could fit in my hand, I knew him, I
named him, I knew the color of his hair and his eyes, the
torment was horrible. I never told anyone about those
dreams, not even Connie." [Connie is his wife]
Narrative from The Report Newsmagazine, The
heart of healing; One of the most common sources of female
depression has been a taboo subject. (Terry O'Neil Dec 2, 2002
pNA
)
- The emotional effects started soon after. "I became
bulimic. I became severely depressed, angry. I became
withdrawn. and then on another side, I became promiscuous."
A short-lived marriage produced one miscarriage and two
girls. "But what was interesting, when I had my first
daughter in 1980, I could not connect with her. I could
hardly hold her. Her father did most of the care. I couldn't
cuddle her. I couldn't console her. I had trouble
breast-feeding. I had trouble feeling love for her. I ended
up bottle-feeding her, and I couldn't wait to get back to
work."
Narrative from It gets easier with practice. by Celeste
McGovern (from Alberta Report, August 14, 2000 v27 i7
p19)
- Murder and Hormone Imbalance
"Sandi Nieves' life had been unravelling for some time
before she murdered her four little girls in the early
morning of July 1, 1998. Then 34 years old, the mother of
five was reaching the breaking point. T... And five days
earlier she'd had an abortion that, she later testified,
'was against everything inside me' and she described as
feeling like "the insides of me were ripped out." ....
In court, Dr. Ney presented jury physiological
evidence of post-abortion trauma: 'Coursing
the veins of a pregnant woman are levels of the hormone
cortisol 10 times the level of a typical male, he says. The
abrupt and unnatural halt of those powerful hormones by
abortion puts a woman 'in a state of biochemical
imbalance.'"
| Feminist Views: What does Carol Gilligan say about guilt?
Carol Gilligan , a contemporary feminist ethicist, states women
experience more guilt than they should because our culture tells women
they have a moral responsibility to their fetus.
Dovitch writes: "Just as the assumption that a woman will want to bear a child is
rooted in our culture's teachings, it is often considered a woman's
implicit moral responsibility to exercise care and to avoid hurting
others in all her relationships. She is told that giving birth is her
“obligation" as a female, writes author and Harvard University Professor
Carol Gilligan. The myth tells a woman that she should embrace a
pregnancy as a gift and as a responsibility to take on without question,
even when it is unplanned." (The Healing Choice p.38)
What does Naomi Ruth Lowinski say as to the
seriousness of an abortion?
"Naomi Ruth Lowinsky believes that whether a woman
views a fetus as life or potential life, she knows, on some deep level,
than an "abortion is not merely a medical procedure. It is a sacrifice
of life, hopefully for life." The sheer intensity of this fact may
result in a woman's need to emotionally separate from herself the fetus
and the abortion. 51
Do women hold a constant view of abortion
throughout their lives?
"Again and again, we were told how a woman's view of her abortion
had changed over the course of her life so that an abortion that
appeared fully resolved in earlier years often took on changed meaning
and reappeared as a different kind of benchmark as she matured." (The
Healing Choice 16) |
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| 3. Overcoming Post Abortion Stress
Syndrome Advice for overcoming post abortion
stress syndrome has some similarities to advice given for overcoming a variety of
addictions and traumas: facing the
symptoms, admitting to them, deciding to do something about it (either
by oneself or in a workshop) forgiving yourself & others, moving
on with purpose
Forgiveness is the big issue.
Rhonda Chervin claims people often seethe with anger because the
world is not a perfect place - because we and our friends have made
mistakes. We cannot live happily if we continually relive
our less-than-perfect decisions. We must release ourselves of the
burden of carrying this anger by forgiving others and forgiving
ourselves. Some women who have had abortions felt it was the best
decision at the time, yet years later, they wish they had kept their
baby. People must face this fact, accept the decisions that were made in
the past, forgive themselves, and then move forward with a purposeful
life.
What is the first step towards overcoming post abortion
stress syndrome?
Healing Choices recommends unburying your emotions:
"Unlocking your buried emotions is the
first step in healing them. In order to do this work, you must
be able to identify your emotions. This can be a difficult task;
(The Healing Choice: Your Guide to Emotional Recovery After
an Abortion by Candace De Puy and Dana Dovitch page
31)
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Recovery from Post Abortion Trauma can be facilitated as
follows:
- Realistic expectations.
Face and admit to your
situation. Healing and recovery may
not be instantaneous. It often takes time. It's like a physical
wound or surgery We may bleed, apply pressure, and stop the
injury; but there is still a scab that lingers for a while. It
is not completely healed instantaneously. Be realistic in
expectations. Know it can take time and don't get discouraged
- Personalize the Experience:
"Part of the recovery
process is to personalize the aborted child, so that its loss can
truly be grieved. 'It was a son,' she says of her aborted child. As
part of the therapy, "I named him Cameron. He would be 28 now."
(From The Heart of Healing - The Report Newsmagazine, Terry
O'Neil)
- Spend time alone with yourself: " Separation is
positive as long as it resonates with your desire to carve out a
private emotional apace in which to sort through your feelings and
gain insight" (Healing Choice page 67). In solitude you can discover
yourself, it is a time reflect upon and set your personal goals , it
is a time to meet yourself and plan your journey together.
- Attend a workshop:
There are
workshops wherein
women can sort out their grief in a non-judgmental way.
- Tell your story: -
at a workshop, high school
group, at a club. There is truth to the adage "A
problem told is a problem half solved." However, many
women find it difficult to find someone to talk to. They saw few
want to be bothered, and some judge, chastise, and look down upon an
abortive woman.
- Join a post-abortion support group:
Know that
you're not alone. Know that someone is ready to listen to you.
- Forgive yourself and forgive others. Realize we
don't live in a perfect world.
Without forgiveness there is anger. With forgiveness there is peace.
- Re-create yourself. Begin anew.
Rediscover your purpose/meaning in life. Pursue worthwhile
activities and causes. Make time for recreation with those
you love.
Further Tips
- Find someone to talk to
For women looking for someone to talk with, it is suggested
that they present a general abortion problem to their
friends. Judging by the answer, it can then be decided which
friend would be the most supportive.
Additional Statistics regarding Post Abortion trauma
The Elliott Institute reports over 60% of women feel no trauma for the
first 5 years. It is a delayed reaction.
Abortionfacts. com suggests ten years:
"This type of problem was first
seen in large numbers in Vietnam veterans, but did not manifest
it-self until a decade after they returned. The same ten-year
delay has been evident with abortion." T. Keane, Vietnam Vets
Trauma disorder level at 15%, Am. Med. News, L. Abraham,
Dec. 2, 1988, p. 2
As
many as 91% of all abortions cause severe psychological
problems, both immediate and long-term, according to reports of
the Department of Education and the Alan Guttmacher Institute.
(from
91% Suffer from Post-abortion Trauma, Studies Show
© 1992 Diane S. Dew in
The Standard
The Healing Choice
Reports the following statistics:
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12 percent of abortions are performed
on females who are minors.
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Abortion rates are highest in
eighteen-nineteen-year-olds
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60 percent of abortion women are under
twenty-five years of age
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More than 77% of abortion women
express a desire for children in the future
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82% of abortion women are not married
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48 percent of abortion women already
have children
"However, women often fail to remember the
objective facts of biological productivity and womanhood. With
thirty to forty years of fertility in a woman's lifetime,
possibly 520 ovulation cycles and a compelling sex drive, an
enormous number of pregnancies result - some wanted and others
not. It is ,therefore, no wonder that 46 out of 100 women in the
United States experience an abortion in their lifetime" (Healing
Choice, page 103)
Miscellaneous
Some women feel pressured & pressed for time
A pre-abortion woman rarely has the luxury
of time to thoroughly assess the meaning of her pregnancy before
heading into plans for termination. In her state of pregnancy
and emotional turmoil, it can be difficult to systematically
reason through all the details, weighing the pros and cons, to
real a plan of action. So, if she believes that abortion is her
best option, she usually does it as soon as possible. (Healing
Choice 41) |
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Links
CDC Abortion Statistics
http://www.cdc.gov/nchs/fastats/unmarry.htm
Abortion Facts.com - Post abortion Syndrome - includes excellent
resources
After effects of
abortion
Alan Guttmacher Institute
birth statistics
Elliott Institute -
Afterabortion.org
http://www.abortionfacts.com/PAS/PAS.asp
Steps toward
healing - further information
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/index.html
Lorena Bobbitt
suffered PTSD
- had had an abortion - castrated her husband
Lorena's abortion was on June 15, 1990. On June 18, 1993, she went to
her doctor complaining of hyperventilation, cramping, and anxiety
attacks. "These psychosomatic symptoms are all typical of a
post-abortion anniversary reaction," said Reardon. "The cutting incident
occurred five days later, only minutes after she experienced flashbacks
to the abortion, another common post-abortion reaction."
Post Abortion Stress
by Eleanor Ramsey - an online book of many persons (male and female)
that have suffered Post Abortion Stress
Eight Must-Read Books :
- 1. A Solitary Sorrow
by Teri Reisser, M.S., M.F.T with Paul Reisser,
M.D.
Published by: WaterBrook Press, 2375 Telstar
Dr., Suite 160, Colorado Springs, CO 809209
- Aborted Women: Silent No More
by David C. Reardon
Published by:
Acorn
Books, PO Box 7348, Springfield, IL
62791-7348
1-888-41-ACORN
- Abortion Survivors
by Dr. Philip G. Ney
Pioneer Publishing Company
- Detrimental Effects of Abortion: An Annotated
Bibliography with Commentary
by Thomas W. Strahan
Published by:
Acorn Books, PO Box 7348, Springfield, IL62791-7348
888-41-ACORN
- Experiencing Abortion: A Weaving of Women's Words
by Eve Kushner
ISBN Number: 1-56023-921-2
Published by: Haworth
Press, Inc., 10 Alice St., Binghamton, NY 13904-1580
800-HAWORTH
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Forbidden Grief
by Theresa Burke, Ph.D.
ISBN Number: 0-9648957-8-1
Published by: Acorn Books,
PO Box 7348, Springfield, IL62791-7348
888-41-ACORN
- Victims and Victors, Speaking Out About Their Pregnancies,
Abortions, and Children Resulting from Sexual Assault
edited by David C. Reardon, Julie Makimaa, and Amy Sobie
Published by: Acorn Books,
PO Box 7348, Springfield, IL 62791-7348
888-41-ACORN
- Women's Health after Abortion, The Medical and
Psychological Evidence
by Elizabeth Ring-Cassidy, Ian Gentles
Published by: The deVeber
Institute for Bioethics and Social Research, 3089 Bathurst
St., Suite 316, Toronto, Ontario, Canada M6A 2A
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Pamphlets
Broken Women - pamphlet Edited by Amy Sobie
Easton
Publishing Company
Hidden Tears, Pamphlet on men's reaction to abortion
by Lindy Pierce
Easton Publishing Company
Post abortion Syndrome: Are you at Risk?
- pamphlet by
David Reardon
Easton
Publishing Company
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Education -
Fetal Models from
Heritage House 76
Videos
Rachel's Vineyard videos, CDs, journals, books...http://www.rachelsvineyard.org/store/
Life After Abortion
- with workbook - Jennifer O'Neil - Summer of 42 actress
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